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What Should I Wear on A First Date?!

what to wear on a dateRuthlessly rummaging through her closet, Kate pulled piece after piece out, grumbled, and threw it on the bed.

  • Sequin miniskirt?  No, that work.
  • Tuxedo stripe track pants and blazer?  No, that’s wasn’t right.
  • Pleated skirt?  No, that wasn’t right.
  • Designer crop top?  No, that wasn’t right.

In a huff of irritation, flopped on the bed and looked at the jumble of clothes and still was clueless as to what she was going to do about Friday.  Indecision swam in her head as her mind screamed “What do I wear on a date?!”

Has this ever happened to you?

Well if it hasn’t consider yourself blessed and fortunate.  If you’re like me, then this scene has definitely happened to you a time or two (or seven!) when you just had no clue what to wear on a date.  This situation becomes even more overwhelming when you are trying to figure out what to wear on a first date!

Here are my timeless tips on what to wear on a first, second, or twelfth date!

For the casual date

Remember that comfort, versatility, and clean lines should be your goal.  Choose pieces that can be easily layered in case you’ll be going some place where the climate may change (i.e. the movies, walk in the park, etc.) and you want to be comfortable the entire time.  Also keep in mind to wear shoes that are cute as well as comfortable.  Leave your 5” stilettos in the closet for this type of date (this is about the only time you’ll hear me advise against wearing your sky high heels:)  A beautiful flat sandal, loafer, lace up oxford, or ballet flat may be your best choices.

For the formal date

Bring on the glam!  This is the type of date you can get all dolled up for because you’ll likely be sitting in one place and there will be less movement as compared to a casual date.  Think a beautiful dinner date.  The goal of this look should be functional femininity.  While a fabulous bandage dress, smokey eye, and deep red lips might be perfect for the woman with a boat load of confidence and the perfect body, for most women this can be a bit overkill.

Go for pieces with silhouettes that compliment your shape and are preferably made of wrinkle-resistant fabric. You’ll likely be sitting for a long period of time, so anything that can reduce the amount of creases in your clothes when you get up is a plus!  Also think classy instead of overtly sexy.  Yes men like cleavage but if you want your date to look in your eyes when they talk to you (and not your breasts) try to go for drape style tops and dresses that accentuate not necessarily show off “the girls”

Separates can look fabulous here!  Think of a great a-line or fishtail skirt.  Work with the silhouettes that look good on  you.  Here’s where you can go back to your high heels (yes!), just make sure you can walk comfortably in them.

So there you have it, my fast easy and effective tips on what to wear on a date.

Tell me, what do you wear on casual dates?

What do you wear on formal dates?

What do you wear on a first date?

Comment below!

Still need a bit of guidance?  Then check out my ultimate series of what to wear on dates:


Dating on the Rebound

Dating on the Rebound
Rebound dating

It’s a crazy, loony, and possibly funny place most of us have been.

After a relationships ends, it’s quite common to go “on the rebound” and kind of date people who aren’t in your usual scope.  This can be a good or bad thing, all depending upon where you’re head is at when you do it.

In our latest book with fab dating advice for women, we discuss several ways on how to secure the relationship you want using some methods you may have never been taught or simply forgotten about.   However our “sage advice” doesn’t usually apply to women on the rebound.

Here are some helpful articles about dating on the rebound…whatever your stance is on the subject:

Want more?  Here’s also a great list of resources that dive a little more in-depth on the subject:

So have you ever been on the rebound?

Was it a good experience or a terrible time in dating?

Comment below!


photo credit: las – initially via photopin cc

Wearing Blue on A Date

wearing blue on a dateCongratulations!

You have just picked the favorite color of most people in the world!

In our new ebook that contains real-world dating advice for women, one of the major areas we focus on is what to wear on your date…especially a first date.  If you’ve decided on the color blue, then you’ll have a great chance of succeeding in communicating with your date.

Here are some fun and fabulous facts about the color psychology of blue:

  • Blue can also create feelings of sadness or aloofness
  • Blue can also lower the pulse rate and body temperature
  • Blue is the perfect dieters color as it’s the least appetizing
  • Blue is described as a favorite color by many people and is the color most preferred by men
  • Blue calls to mind feelings of calmness or serenity. It is often described as peaceful, tranquil, secure, and orderly
  • Blue is often used to decorate offices because research has shown that people are more productive in blue rooms

On my blue binge for the day, here are some great articles I’ve found online about the color blue:

See other great posts in the what color to wear on a date series:


Wearing Yellow on A Date

blog post-7.17.14 wearing yellowIn our new ebook, which features dating advice for women that will actually get you dates, one subject that’s covered in detail is the impact of color you wear on your first date.

Today’s topic is all about the color yellow!

Now according to experts, yellow is one of the worst colors you can wear on a date if you’re a woman.  Yellow has a unique impact on people because it’s either good or bad.  And this impact all depends upon the other person’s perception, mood, and state of mind how they view you in yellow.

That’s a lot of power for one color!

However I’m kind of on the fence about this one.  I think yellow can be a fabulous color to wear if you have the sparkling personality to wear such a vibrant color.

Here are some fun facts about yellow you want to keep in mind if you plan on wearing it for your next date:

  • Yellow is eye-catching
  • Yellow can increase metabolism
  • Yellow can make people nervous
  • Too much yellow can cause depression
  • Yellow can evoke feelings of anger or frustration
  • Yellow is usually seen as a warm and cheery color
  • Yellow fatigues the human eye faster than any other color

I hope this gave you a bit more perspective about how or if to wear yellow on a date.

Oh, and I found some awesome articles online about yellow.


Other blog posts in my colors to wear on a date series:


Wearing Orange on A Date

wearing orange on a date-7.16.14Orange is an exciting warm color that draws attention!

It’s not as flagrant as red and not as nervous as yellow, so it offer a great balance of energy, vibrancy and approachability.  In our new e-book that features excellent dating advice for women, we cover the powerful impact of orange–along with other colors–and how to wear them for your first date!

Here are some easy tips to get you started for when (or if) you wear orange on a date:

  • Do monochromatic orange…at your own risk
  • Pair orange with white denim for a great summer look
  • Add orange in your accessories for a fresh “pop” of color
  • Pair orange with yellow for a youthful and fresh appearance
  • Keep the shapes simple if you wear orange–think sheath dress or a-line skirt
  • Wear orange layered underneath a cropped denim jacket for a polished casual look
  • Avoid pairing it with black as this looks too costume-y and like your dressing for Halloween

Here are some great articles I’ve found online about wearing orange as well.


So how do you feel about wearing orange?

Do you love it or loathe it?

Comment below!


Wearing Pink on a Date

wearing pink on a datePrepping for a date, especially a first date, can be nerve-wracking in the extreme.

One of the biggest challenges is deciding what color to wear.  Since color has a lot of impact on someone’s perception of you, you want to choose wisely (this and many other topics are covered in my new e-book of dating advice for women:).

One color that I feel has an exceptional amount of power in it is the color pink.

Here’s are some interesting articles I’ve found about wearing pink on a date.


Want more super tips on what to wear, how to act and what to say for your next date?

Then check our new e-book, which features excellent tips and overall usable dating advice for women.

Oh, I almost forgot!  Check out the sister post to this one about wearing red on a date.



It’s All About Red!

all about red 1Here’s a breakdown of some great information I’ve found about the meaning of the color red. Read, enjoy, and incorporate this knowledge into your everyday life and wardrobe.

Red aura colors are related to the energy surrounding our physical body, heart, or circulation. A bright and pure red aura indicates a healthy ego, but it is also the color that can cause the most friction. A muddied red, for instance, is indicative of anger and is an energy that repels others; a darkened, murky pink often signifies dishonesty or immaturity. On the other hand, a lighter orange red can be a sign of confidence and creative power; a bright pink shows a nature that is loving, affectionate, sensitive, artistic, and tender. Moreover, clear red indicates a powerful, competitive, passionate, and sexual energy, while deep red shows strong willpower. (Source: Psychic Solutions by Lynn)

Red is the color of extremes. It’s the color of passionate love, seduction, violence, danger, anger, and adventure. Our prehistoric ancestors saw red as the color of fire and blood – energy and primal life forces – and most of red’s symbolism today arises from its powerful associations in the past.

Red is also a magical and religious color. It symbolized super-human heroism to the Greeks and is the color of the Christian crucifixion. Red was almost as rare and as expensive as purple in ancient days – a fact that may explain its magic and power. Paradoxically, today’s intense red dyes come from crushed insects (the lac beetle and the cochineal). (Source: Color Matter)

Red is the color of life force, materialism, passion and love. This color energizes you and it can also put you in a romantic mood, depending on the shade of the color and the environment. Red is also associated with anger, power and war. Ancient Romans used to dress their gods in this color.

It’s better to avoid this color in your bedroom since it can cause sleeping problems because this color is very energizing. So red walls are too overwhelming for the bedroom; however you can use red decorations such as cushions or candles. People who wear red color clothes usually enjoy attention and like to stand out. (Source: Simona Rich)

Red is the color of fire and blood, so it is associated with energy, war, danger, strength, power, determination as well as passion, desire, and love.

Red is a very emotionally intense color. It enhances human metabolism, increases respiration rate, and raises blood pressure. It has very high visibility, which is why stop signs, stoplights, and fire equipment are usually painted red. In heraldry, red is used to indicate courage. It is a color found in many national flags.

Red brings text and images to the foreground. Use it as an accent color to stimulate people to make quick decisions; it is a perfect color for ‘Buy Now’ or ‘Click Here’ buttons on Internet banners and websites. In advertising, red is often used to evoke erotic feelings (red lips, red nails, red-light districts, ‘Lady in Red’, etc). Red is widely used to indicate danger (high voltage signs, traffic lights). This color is also commonly associated with energy, so you can use it when promoting energy drinks, games, cars, items related to sports and high physical activity.

  • Light red represents joy, sexuality, passion, sensitivity, and love.
  • Pink signifies romance, love, and friendship. It denotes feminine qualities and passiveness.
  • Dark red is associated with vigor, willpower, rage, anger, leadership, courage, longing, malice, and wrath.
  • Brown suggests stability and denotes masculine qualities.
  • Reddish-brown is associated with harvest and fall. (Source: Color Wheel Pro)


Dating After Forty

dating after 40Dating can be a challenging for women of any age, but there seems to be an even greater challenge for women over 40.

From working with many women in this category, whether it be bouncing back from a divorce, ending a long-term relationship, or just getting back out there, dating for women over 40 has it’s own unique set of challenges and rewards.

I. Understanding Who You Are
a. Dating Mistakes Women Make After 40
b. Six Reasons to Pursue Love After 40
c. Advantages of Dating After 40
d. 10 Lies Singles Tell Themselves About Love After 40
e. Dating and Mating over 40
f. The Tao of Dating


II. Understanding What You Have to Offer
a. Dating in Your 40’s
b. Dating after 40: How to Stop Playing the Dating Game and Start Taking Back Control of Your Love Life
c. Debunking the Biggest Myth of Dating Over 40
d. Six Signs You’re Settling for Second Best
e. Dating After 40: Should a Women Offer to Pay on a Date?
f. The 8 Best Cities For Dating Singles Over 40


III. Dating Younger Men
a. Younger Man / Older Woman
b. The Trouble with Dating a Younger Man
c. Tips on Dating a Younger Man
d. The Pros and Cons of Dating a Younger Man
e. The Drawbacks of Dating a Younger Man
f. Cougar: A Guide for Older Women Dating Younger Men


IV. Dating Older Men
a. Why You Should Date an Older Guy
b. Things You Should Know Before Dating An Older Man
c. Dating Someone Older: Criteria for a Successful Relationship
d. Reasons for Dating Older Men
e. The Disadvantages of Dating Older Men
f. Dating the Older Man: Consider Your Differences and Decide if He’s Right for You


V. Dating Online
a. How to Write a Great Online Dating Profile
b. How To Draw The People You Want To Your Online Dating Profile
c. Five Big Online Dating Profile Mistakes Made by Women over 40
d. Strategies for Women Over 40 Who are New to Online Dating
e. Strategies for Women Over 40 Who are New to Online Dating: Tip #2
f. Online Dating For Women Over 40: The Hopeful Woman’s 10 Step Guide to Enjoyment and Success

So what are some of the challenges you face as a woman dating after 40?

Start a conversation & comment below!


Wearing Red On A Date

wearing red on a date 1Frustrated, confused and ready to pull her hair out, Janet went through the pile of red blouses, red dresses, and red skirts she’d piled on her bed. In some style magazine she had seen the gleaming piece of insight that red was the best color to wear on a date. With that little bit of knowledge, she literally ran with the idea.

The only problem was, she didn’t really like red, didn’t know what shade worked best for her, and was terrified of looking bad at the end.

Does this sound like you?

Do you struggle to often find the right thing to wear for a first date?

Well the stories are true. Red is a fabulous color to wear on a first date! But if you don’t know what you’re doing, this can totally backfire on you. You’ll end up looking like an out of place ‘Stop’ sign rather than the dazzling diva you are. Follow these expert style tips on how to successfully wear read on a date.

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Pick a shade that compliments your personality: Red is one of the three primary colors. No matter what shade (red+black) or tone (red + white) you choose to wear red in, it will make a statement. True red is a color that’s for the woman with dynamic boldness in her own person as well as in her sexuality. There have also been professional studies done at the University of South Brittany in France stating that red sends the signal to men that you’re looking for sex.


Wear true red with caution ladies. Here are some other options of wearing red, and what they mean:

  • Maroon: a dark bluish red, it denotes controlled and more thoughtful action. It is slightly softer than burgundy and not as dramatic as true red.
  • Burgundy: a dark purplish red, it is more sophisticated and serious and less energetic than true red. It indicates controlled power, determined ambition and dignified action and is often favored by the wealthy.
  • Crimson: has a little blue in it. It indicates a determination to succeed but without upsetting anyone else. It emits sensuality rather than sexuality.
  • Scarlet: has a little orange mixed with it, giving it a richness and brightness. It indicates enthusiasm and a love of life. It is a little less intense and more fun-loving than true red, tempered with a degree of defiance.


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Choose a shade that fits the mood: The color you wear should also be appropriate for the occasion. For instance, wearing c bold cherry red to a tragic play may be a little overkill. Before you spend hours looking for the right shade of red to wear, be sure you know the color you pick will be appropriate for your date.

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Wear the shade you’re comfortable in: This is the most important one of all…you should only wear shades of red (of any color actually!) which you feel comfortable and confident in. If you pick a color that’s too bold or bright for your personal comfort level, you’ll be agitated and nervous throughout your whole date! Take my advice, only wear shades you’re totally comfortable wearing.


That’s all you have to do, now go to your closet and get fabulous for your first date!

Now tell me, how do you feel about red? Comment below!

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Dating After A Break-Up

dating after a break-upWe all can relate to the feelings of breaking up, and well, it sucks!
Whether you’re the one ending the relationship or someone else is ending the relationship with you, there’s always a degree of emotional discomfort.
Check out these helpful posts I’ve found on the web that include some of the very real advice we give our clients in this area.

I. Getting Over Your Ex

  1. Science-Based Strategies for Getting Over Your Ex
  2. 7 Secrets to Getting Over Your Addiction to Your Ex 
  3. 8 Reasons To Finally Let Go Of Your Ex 
  4. 3 Reasons Why You Can’t Get Over Your Ex 
  5. Getting Over a Breakup Meditation – How to Survive a Breakup


II. Getting Back In the Game

  1. Yoga for Confidence
  2. I am Terrible at First Dates!
  3. 10 Basic Dating Tips
  4. 7 Tips to Create an Online Dating Profile that Works
  5. 7 Tips for Online Dating
  6. How to Prepare for a Night


III. Ensuring You Don’t Repeat Past Mistakes

  1. 6 Steps to Finding Your Soulmate
  2. 15 Questions That Can Bring You Closer to Your Partner Today
  3. Yoga & Relationships: Stretching Toward Commitment
  4. Discovering Your Spouse’s Love Language
  5. Learn to Speak Your Spouse’s Love Language
  6. Tantric Yoga – For Deeper Relationships
  7. Tips for Improving Sexuality and Relationships with Yogita, Senior Tantric Yoga Teacher

Are you a woman and still need a little more help with dating after a breakup?

Then buy our newest e-book which has great dating advice for women!